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How to get rid of nits/head lice?

Are you itching yet? I know when our girls caught nits from school which at some points could be every week, it would cause a daily battle. At the time Jasmin and Jennifer had hair just above their bums and extremely thick. This meant I had to battle getting that wonderful nit comb through their hairs! There was no tips on the internet, only random show about the newest technic and not talking to other parents as were embarrassed they may blame our child for giving them to theirs. So, our children were going through the daily hell of us going through their hair.

I am a nightmare and get obsessed with nits, somehow when I was a child with long hair like our girls there was a rare sighting in my hair of them. This is a habit, that has continued, just like my nan would when ever touching the girls hair I would look for the signs of nits.

  • Small flakes of black like dirt
  • red areas on head
  • child regularly itching
  • Eggs or nits
  • bites

There is many ways of tackling nits and I have all of them on this blog, as the best way is to use them all together!

Conditioner

For us this is a monthly job when our girls are in the bath just because of how smooth it makes the girls hairs anyway. But when you find 1 nit this becomes a daily job. For short hair you will find this the easiest root and likely only have to do once every other day, but with long hair this is an everyday job. Many parents don’t think about how the nits can stay in the hair because they have grabbed further down the hair strand. This means they will have a chance to get back in the hair, this is also the same for eggs, as the strand thins at the bottom. If you are doing this daily this means they are less likely to be able to grip onto the hair every time. But also every important that even though you are segmenting the hair to re go over the same point, don’t assume it is done. The way we do it is I have to go round the head 5 times with no nits coming out.

Just pull them!

When you are watching TV or just relaxing, pull them out.

Nit lotion

I don’t believe that this is as effective as conditioner and comb. Yet, I do always use this when they are first found on the hair, instead of conditioner. Also it may only say 15 minutes, but we have found it is best to leave in for at least 1 hour!

Even in high ponytail Jasmin’s hair is middle of her back

Check regularly

Whenever you are brushing your child’s hair check it for the sign of nits. Remember the quicker you find them the quicker you will be able to get rid of them. As they say it’s not always about the cure, but about the prevention!

Tea Tree products

We used to wash our girls hair with tea tree shampoo and conditioner, now we home educate they love it as they don’t smell like tea tree anymore. We then used to use a oil on the back of their necks to just give it an extra repellent.

Bella’s natural curls can be a nightmare to brush at the best of times!

Their is a few tips that can help your child not to catch nits.

  • Do not share someone else’s hair brush, I know for girls especially this is a hard one. But just make sure they have their own in their bag.
  • Try not to try on products in a shop! We’ve all done it a hat, mask, head scarf and so much more. If someone has worn this with nits they could be holding on to the fabric waiting for a nice warm head.
  • Do not share hats! One of the things I used to hate was the school would make Bella (who hates hats) wear a hat that had been on the head of another child! Yes, she would often come home after this with nits.
  • Cuddling, now every child needs a cuddle from a friend, sibling etc. But this is the easiest way for them to get nits.

Also don’t forget these

  • Wash bedding, until you know your child is nit free
  • Washing all headwear during this time
  • clean the bath out after every child

I hope this blog helps you, and hopefully your child is co-operative. Don’t forget to chat with your child and explain why it is important. Also it is neglectful to leave them for too long as these can aggravate your child’s head and possible cause infections. Don’t forget as well they are drinking your child’s blood so this could also make your child poorly if not dealt with as soon as possible.

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Blogs · Mental Health · Parent

Being a mum with no emotional support!

One of the hardest things I have found as a mum is having no emotional support from family. My husband and friends are amazing, but due to not knowing if I am in the right or wrong I questioning myself so much. This means they have to deal with me talking to them about the same things over and over again. They don’t realise how much I cannot understand why my family don’t show the same emotional support to me as they do others.

The reason I am putting this up is their response to a post the other day, that I placed up about Bella. No one was there for me, the people that popped in only did because they were at the hospital. Unlike others in the family no one made a special trip for her, no one asked how she was. She was in hospital with Herpes which has killed thousands of children up and down the UK, yet no one was there.

I support them all, asking them how are their children, making sure they are emotionally ok. Going to see them in hospital if I can, even at times making the trip just for them. Arguments in between Anth and myself as they don’t show our family the same consideration. But I hope the more I do I will finally get their love back. NOPE!

This is where I feel social media is the worst thing ever invented, because you can watch other people’s activity. Watching me interact with them, but never getting interaction back. Watching them support each other whilst I’m dying inside, watching them slag me off for things that I couldn’t control. Watching them call me a horrible child and that I have always been loud and annoying.

As I write this I am sobbing but it needs to be put out there, as I have started to network the realisation I am not alone with being shunned in this manner. None of them will know how lonely it is, none of them will know how desperate you are for them to love you. None of them will know how much you question what you did in a past life to deserve to be so hated by them. None of them will not realise that money means nothing compare to the time they asked are you ok? None of them know how no one can replace the one holding your hands during the tough times.

This blog is not going to go down well, but it needed to be said. Especially when you called the stupid one for not knowing your own child’s care by people that didn’t even ask if she was ok. For me blogging is my way of getting my feelings out and these needed to get out.

For any mum feeling this message me, I will be here to listen.

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Let my regrets be your advice!

Strange title, but the only one to fit this perfect. I’m going to go through all my regrets with my life of being a mum. Hopefully I will be able to help another mum from living the same regrets.

Debts

I remember going to the Grafton centre in Cambridge and getting my first ever contract phone. I was so proud, I remember showing off my pink LG to anyone. One day I couldn’t pay the bill our money was slightly short. Never being taught what to do and my advice it’s ok it will only blacklist the address. Sadly this advice was about 5 years old, from that 1 debt it just spiralled out of control, to the point we’re still not debt free over 10 years later.

Be the mum you want to be!

Due to the people around me I was convinced I was the worse mum ever. Being told that a young mum is not a good mum. But now I look back and because of them I wasn’t the mum I wanted to be, now I am but sadly its 13 years too late. If they telling you, your doing it wrong and yet no harm is coming to your children, ignore them and carry on.

Don’t waste my teen wages!

When I first met Anth I was working with my grandfather and a car firm. During this time I wasted a lot of money, which would of been amazing to of had to make a down payment on our own home.

Exercise

I wish I continued to exercise after every child as normal now I have the body of a beached whale!

Memories

Photograph and video everything, even if you don’t want it public have your own private YouTube account. Then you can look back with your family at the happy memories. I know this is my biggest regret, changing Facebook after Facebook means I lost a lot of photos.

Hopefully these will help you not to have regrets as your children get older.

Blogs · Family · Home Educating · Parent

5 truths about home education!

People think home education is the easy route, but sadly it’s not. A lot of parents will say how they couldn’t be with their children. For home educating parents we are with our children 24/7, but I personally would not of have it any other way.

1. The house needs cleaning at least 5 times a day and still looks a mess at the end!

2. There is no space for me time, the way I do get alone time is by doing things like cleaning etc, click here to see my blog on alone time.

3. It can be weeks before you get to go out! (Check out our daily vlogs to see the fun)

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4. People will judge you as a bad parent!

Our approach to homeschooling!

5. Some days you want to do loads and children are unmotivated and visa versa.

Family · Parent

Top 5 tips for children and chores

As we know it’s not easy to get our children to do chores. To be honest our girls only started once they were home educated.

1. Encourage children to tidy up behind their selves no matter where they are.

So if your children have got toys out at a friend’s house, encourage them to put back what they have played with.

If, your child has just had dinner encourage them to empty their plate into the bin and rinse it for easier cleaning.

2. Make their room their responsibility.

Their bedroom should become their responsibility, with help only if its uncontrollable. Tidy every day and clean 2ce a week. Show them how you would like to see the room everyday.

3. Give them a room in the house for them to be responsible for.

We set an hour a day for cleaning the house, this will include a room they are in charge of. This will be tidied every day but clean 2ce a week. Its amazing to see them so proud.

4. Ask them to assist with cooking.

Cooking is a massive skill they will need when they leave home. While you are cooking get them to help with little things like stirring. At Jennifer’s and Jasmin’s age they can cook under supervision.

5. Get them to look after their own laundry.

Soon Jennifer and Jasmin will have their own laundry baskets to do their own laundry. This is to teach them what they will need to do once they have left home.

Some will say children should not be doing these, but if they don’t how and when will they learn. We want our children to be able to understand how to be independent as they get older and this is the best way for them to learn.