One of the things that surprise people, even doctors, is that Anth and I have been together 14 years, 15 very soon. But one of the saddest things I can remember is the shock on a midwife’s face when I answered the question “do all your children have the same Dad?” With me looking at her giggling and replying “yes”.
I get asked now and again how have you manage to last this long! Very much hard work for both of us. We certainly both have habits that drive each other insane, but it’s by passing that and remembering the things that make a relationship special.
Anth and I never go on nights out without our girls. People believe that they need their alone time and they need to have time away from their children. We actually love spending our spare time as a family. Thing is as life passes us quickly by, the more Anth and I realise once the girls are old enough that will be our alone time.
One of the things we have found is sharing everything. I’m very honest, to honest a bit brutally honest, to the point we have lost a lot of friends and family. But keeping secrets and not informing your partner of anything can cause a lot of problems. Even if you think it’s small; for example changing pubs when you’ve informed them your going to be at the first 1 all night.
The other thing is decisions, I’ve learnt this the hard way as I made a lot of the choices in our younger years; which have ended up biting us in the bottom. Now we ensure all decisions are made together.
But the most important thing is to stay in love and keep the love alive.